Another Lao killed his wife

[Laonai]

Why Lao and Hmong men keep killing their unfaithfull wives? There are
thousand of Lao girls in Lao PDR that are availble and waiting for you.


Checked the following web site.
http://www.koin.com/news.asp?ID=2593

[dougismooth]

Laonai,

Okay, she was unfaithful so he decided to send her to hell but later
follow her to hell, too. Very strange twist :( What will God ask
them?

Maybe he didn't want commi girls. Have you ever thought of that?
Maybe he wanted to save all commi girls for you.

Only "Bang-thi(maybe") but no answers to your question "WHY...

Sorry,

Dougi

[ລາວນອກ]

What a sad thing to hear.

http://groups-beta.google.com/group/soc.culture.laos/browse_frm/thread/fd63bb3a553b38b7/5b26cb97b5bf21b5?hl=en#5b26cb97b5bf21b5

[l***@laoclub.zzn.com]

Thing like this happend to a Lao couple in my city several years ago
too. Most Lao people are somewhat uneducated, both male and female.
I've seen quite a number of couples that are separated with some grown
kids, and little kids that need taken care off. I wonder if they ever
think of the well being of their children future? To solve a problem
this way was unwise, and tragic.

Post by ລາວນອກ
What a sad thing to hear.

http://groups-beta.google.com/group/soc.culture.laos/browse_frm/thread/fd63bb3a553b38b7/5b26cb97b5bf21b5?hl=en#5b26cb97b5bf21b5

[ລາວນອກ]

Tragic indeed...

[Vanh]

"Killing their unfaithful wives" this kind of compulsive utterance
always sounds like the beginning of an ownership justification to put
an end to their spouse's life as an object, precisely because of that
unforgivable pretense of broken trust. However, beneath this murky
tragic killing to get even which is not uncommon these days throughout
the Lao community, is often lying a dark chapter in our cultural
misinterpretation of the conjugal role between man and woman. More
likely this problems is getting worse in a totally opened society where
the equal right for access or exposure is not well taken especially by
Lao and Hmong men, who often consider themselves as more or less the
traditional boss who deserves the unquestionable possession upon their
wives who have to be unquestionably faithful to their husband.

These unfaithful arguments must be redefined in order to better
understand or save all these fatal mistakes from happening again and
again, often this unequal interpretation goes like this: if it is to
man who is the unfaithful to his wife, and thing looks normal generally
speaking, the wife has to bear it in silence, and the reverse happens
is just not acceptable norm in the unyieding macho mentality, and man
who has to rule out... The killing is the easiest thing to do, but the
consequence of this unconsicious act forcefully leave behind a
generation of innocent children who will bear the enduring scar for
the rest of their life.


Vanh

Post by Laonai
Why Lao and Hmong men keep killing their unfaithfull wives? There are
thousand of Lao girls in Lao PDR that are availble and waiting for you.
Checked the following web site.
http://www.koin.com/news.asp?ID=2593

[Joe Fukawe]

Dudes,

Where does it say anything about either people being unfaithful? All I
saw was they were going through a divorce, believe me, it ain't the end
of the world, life goes on if you only let it.

Anyway, from what I know about Lao women, most of the time they
wouldn't draw the first blood, it's usually the husband who stray first
and several times before the wife sought revenge. It's tragic news
indeed, they should've read my 'moment of reflection' thread, that
might've changed the husband mind.

Totally agree with y'all, unfortunately, the living usually end up with
trying to make some sense into such senseless act.

Joe

[lorklyin]

Post by Joe Fukawe
Dudes,
Where does it say anything about either people being unfaithful? All I
saw was they were going through a divorce, believe me, it ain't the end
of the world, life goes on if you only let it.

Joe,

This is indeed sad and vary tragic. My source told me that she was
having an affair. I told my source that even that, this should have
happen. They should think about their childrens.

So sad

lorklyin

[ລາວນອກ]

It is definitely the sense of insecurity that makes people react so. I
hope this will never happen to me.

[l***@laoclub.zzn.com]

Lao people need to speak up about incident like this, so that it won't
happpen again. It would be nice for Lao organizors to held summit
dealing with the Lao issue that we're all faced here in America, and
ways to solve these sort of problems from youth gangs, domestic
voilence, alcoholism, and education. I think Lao BC would be a great
channel to get the message across to the majority of Lao people in the
US. What do you all think? I think Casalao need to convince the people
at LaoBC to come up with this Lao Unity Conference. This would be a
great idea since San Diego has the biggest Lao population in the US
plus LaoBC is located there.

Post by ລາວນອກ
It is definitely the sense of insecurity that makes people react so.

I

Post by ລາວນອກ
hope this will never happen to me.

[ລາວນອກ]

Sounds like a good plan LDR.
Si Hahet

[ອີ່ລຸງທອງວັນ]

ເປັນຕາສີຕົນແທ້ໆ
ຂໍພາວະນາໃຫ້ວິນຍານຊຸມເຈົ້າທັງສອງ
ຈົ່ງໄປເກີດບອ່ນມີສຸຂ-ບອ່ນບໍ່ມີຜ

[ລາວນອກ]

ໂອ໊ຍລຸງທອງວັນເອີຍ,

You have a beautiful heart. If something ever happens to me, I hope
you say something nice like this for me. Thank

[Fisherman]

Sad. May your next lives be more peaceful. I will follow you after my
101th birthday. Here's a Buddhist chanting for your souls.


_Bhaddekarattagatha_

Atitam nanvagameyya (Let not a man trace back the past)
Nappatikankhe anagatam (or wonder what the future holds:)
Yadatitampahinantam (the past is but the left-behind,)
Appattanca Anagatam. (the future... but the yet-unreached.)
Paccuppannaca Yo Dhammam (But in the present let him see)
Thattha Thattha Vipassati, (with insight each and every dhamma,)
Asanhiram Asankuppam (invincibly, unshakably,)
Tam Viddha Manubruhaye. (that can be pierced by practising.)
Ajjeva Kiccamatapam (Today the effort must be made,)
Ko Janna Maranam Suve, (tomorrow death may come - who knows?)
Na Hi No Sangarantena. (No bargain with His Deathliness)
Mahasenena Maccuna. (can keep him and his hordes away.)
Evam Viharimatapim (But one who bides thus ardently,
Ahorattamatanditam, (relentlessly, by day, by night -)
Tam Ve Bhaddekarattoti (him the Tranquil Sage has called
Santo Acikkhate Muniti (the ideal lover of solitude.)

[ລາວນອກ]

Why is it that if a Hmong kills someone, he is a Lao Man and if a Hmong
gets into West point, he/she is a Hmong and not a Lao? Why ask why.

http://groups-beta.google.com/group/soc.culture.laos/browse_frm/thread/4d2f5819c1e6e82a/67590c1bbe117e05?hl=en#67590c1bbe117e05

Si Hahet

[Laomother]

Post by ລາວນອກ
Why is it that if a Hmong kills someone, he is a Lao Man and if a Hmong
gets into West point, he/she is a Hmong and not a Lao? Why ask why.

http://groups-beta.google.com/group/soc.culture.laos/browse_frm/thread/4d2f5819c1e6e82a/67590c1bbe117e05?hl=en#67590c1bbe117e05

Post by ລາວນອກ
To All,

Many people tend to kill their lovers and themselves when situation
like this occured. But I believe that we do not need to go this far in
life. If our spouse has an affair and wanted to leave us for that
person, let our spouse make his/her own decision. Killing one another
is not the way we handle problems in this modern world not even in Lao
PDR.

Si Hat

I guess the Hmong who born in Laos is Lao man but the one born oversea
is Hmong. That is why they keep calling themseves Hmong instead of
Lao.
Any idea why only the Hmong students are in top schools in US and
French? I hardly heard any Lao student in the news. I have asked all
the Laonork and they said to me that most but not all Lao students are
chasing Farang girls and ended up with child support then could not go
to scholl.

[ລາວນອກ]

I don't know the answer to your question. I chased girls while in
school, got chased by many too!

Si Hahet

[none]

All,

My Condolence to the family. It is truely sad. From what I know, Victor
and Chitavanh are very active in the Lao Music & Entertainment
Community in Portland, Oregon. It is a great losses to the Lao Music &
Entertainment Community.There were speculation that the couple are
going through some marital problem. However,no one expected that it
would end like this. May their sould rest in peace and comfort.

P.S. The Couple was a former clients of mine. I provided the couple
with Real Estates/Mortgages Services in the past.

[ລາວນອກ]

My wife and I have gone through some good times and some bad times. I
have been very very angry with her on many
occasions. As easily angered as I can be, I have never laid a hand on
her. My father was a Royal Lao Marine for most of his life. We lived
in Kamp Marine, Jinaimo, Vientiane, Laos.

Living among Gungho Marines, I’ve seen my share of domestic abuse. I
promised myself I would never ever be like that, I would never ever hit
my wife no matter how angry I got. To date, I never did, no matter how
upset or angry I was with her. We always worked things out, sometimes
it took minutes, sometimes days, but we have always worked things out.

In any relationship, wife and husband, brothers and sisters, friends
and families, there will be times when we can not agree on things and
this will escalate to battle of words. If we all can keep it to this
level and below, things will work out, relations can be salvaged and
friendships can resume. Once we resort to violence, to me, it is past
the point of no return. Trust is forever lost; sometimes lives are
lost as in the case in Portland.

My heart and soul goes out to this couple and their family. Even
though they lived in violence, may they rest in peace…

ພໍ້ກັນເດີ...
ລາວນອກ
------------------------------­-----------------------------
“The secret of a happy marriage
remains a secret." - Henny Youngman

[ຜີ]

Laomother,

To answer your question about why Lao students are not in the top
schools...
and the answer is that you have to understand how publicity work in the
American society. The person who gave you explanation that Lao students
are too horny to study was just pulling your legs.

[ລາວນອກ]

ຫມໍຜີໂຈ້ເອີຍ,

That's your funniest one yet. Keep them coming.

ຮັກແພງ,
Somxa

[UncleSaddam]

Do you want to get involved with a woman who cheats? If she cheated on
her husband, then chances are she will cheat on you, too.

Post by Laonai
Checked the following web site.
http://www.koin.com/news.asp?ID=2593

she was a nice looking lao lady who had natural butt and a great smile.
his wife gave him no love, she told him she liked big penis, she had
sex with aBlack man. very sad for their children.

[f***@yahoo.com]

Laonai,

Please send one to me. I'm too old to handle Laonork girl.

Faj